A relationship without a goal may seem like an aimless journey. However, for the most part, you live without goals is absolutely liberating.
We come from a culture where relationships come with concrete, achievable goals. One of the most common relationship goals is to find a life partner, wishing for a long, happy, and fulfilling marriage.
After marriage, a fulfilling goal is to have children to complete the family and then we keep defining the micro-goals to keep the relationship sustainable.
There is a common belief: “You’ll never get anywhere unless you know where you’re going.”
Maybe this is so engraved in us that we keep limiting ourselves in achieving these goals that we unconsciously fear living outside this goal zone.
Are we so conditioned to have a meaningful relationship only when it has certain goals or future aspirations?
Can’t we experience a relationship without a goal?
Without an aspiration to have a long futuristic outcome of it?
A relationship without a goal may seem like an aimless journey and you may not be confident of pursuing it with conviction, even if it holds a lot of meaning to its true essence.
You may indeed give it up easily or let it go because you don’t see a path that takes you somewhere.
However, for the most part, you live without goals is absolutely liberating. This sets you free to live in the present without letting yourself be limited by goals.
You cross thousands of people and none of them really touches you the way one person comes and changes your perspective of life forever.
“You’ll never get anywhere unless you know where you’re going.” may seem so commonsensical, and yet it’s obviously not true if you stop to think about it. Do a simple experiment: go for a walk in a random direction, and feel free to change directions randomly. After 20 minutes, an hour you’ll be somewhere! It’s just that you didn’t know you were going to end up there.
And there’s the rub: you have to unleash your mind to experience things you never expected in a way. If you live without goals, you’ll explore new territory. You’ll learn some unexpected things. You’ll end up in surprising places. That’s the beauty of this philosophy, but it’s also a difficult transition.
This transition will make you grow out of your limitations. Your limited conditioning will keep throwing you with ideas of coming up with a goal, but then consciously you need to let them go. Living without goals is not easy, but eventually, you will derive the freedom to enjoy more, which is incredibly freeing, that works with the lifestyle of following your passion that you have always dreamed of living through.
Things you are passionate about, just give it a chance. Just because you don’t have goals that can bind you for future aspirations doesn’t mean you give up on something that you feel so close to, so true — you can create your reality by defining what you are seeking and what you can give in return to make it live through.
Living your true feelings is a wonderful thing: you wake up with a smile and live significantly with every breath that counts-that makes you believe you actually exist. When you are boundless, you become free.
In the end we don’t remember the names of the relationship. We will remember the most beautiful moments shared that touched our heart and soul.
In the end, I believe you will surely end up achieving more than if you were bound to closed goals in life. Living in a relationship based on freedom is much more nourishing than existing as a corpse in a redundant circle of life fulfilling stagnant goals.
My beliefs system comes from where I am today, I just didn’t know I would get there when I started.
There are no mistakes on this journey — it’s just a learning experience. If you live without goals and end up failing, ask yourself if it’s really a failure. You only fail if you don’t get to where you wanted to go — but if you don’t have a destination in mind, there’s no failure. It’s all good.
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