In-laws and Story Ahead…
I was a preteen brought up in a joint family whose later teens transitioned to a nuclear setup. But I am that GenX who was privileged to enjoy living with a big family with all cousins around. I enjoyed both sides of the type of family ecosystem of India.
As GenX I was accustomed to values yet always question our value system to build my intellect wisely. When we are brought up in a value system that preaches us but doesn’t force us, always leave space for us to contemplate and adopt that value with our logic and that lasts forever. I owe it to my family, my extended family, my grandparents to make my journey enriching, loving, and shaping me into a strong individual to face the challenges of life with a brave heart.
As GenX, I was fierce, logical, free in my thoughts, and lived my life on my terms. There was no gender biasedness and we have all the rights equal to our men counterparts in the family and at work. But life has its irony and it teaches its valuable lessons in its own way.
Marrying into a stereotypical orthodox family was a challenge that life offered me to learn my lessons to become stronger and to offer gratitude to what I lived as in my first inning of life.
My In-laws have been a firing inspiration for me to fight the orthodox belief system and to not let the strong woman in me bend down to the biased manipulating ecosystem.
To add more iron to my irony, God blessed me with a girl child, who was surely welcomed but with a hope that the second one would be a representation of the patriarchy of the family. This disappointment is the biggest happiness of my life. Blessed with the same strong virtues, this girl stands for my ideology and makes her grandparents fail badly.
These stereotype thoughts are ushered to her as an inheritance from her limited mindset grandparents that holds no virtues or values which she can take ahead in life as learning or save as her memory log.
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